USA Today said Saturday the tragic networking has become more common, especially among mothers who spend long hours tending the graves of their lost children.
"It's a club nobody wants to be in," Paula Davis said as she visited her son's grave at Arlington National Cemetery. "But here we are, so we look after each other."
The newspaper said the chance meetings have in some cities evolved into more-organized support groups
National cemeteries such as Arlington are the traditional focal points of Memorial Day observances, but are regular haunts for grief-stricken family members. USA Today said most of the casualties from Iraq and Afghanistan buried at Arlington can be found in Section 60, an area well away from the grave of President Kennedy and the scores of tourists who visit the cemetery.