"When I was married, that was the first thing people wanted to know," said the New Girl star about when asked if she wanted to be a mother.
"Like every woman is dying to give birth! I don't think so. Nobody asks a guy that," she added. "And you go into a supermarket and every tabloid is like, 'Pregnant and Alone!' Stuck in this 1950s ideal of how a woman should live her life. That's not something that defines me at all.'"
Because the actress' divorce from Death Cab for Cutie frontman Ben Gibbard was widely covered by the media in 2012, Deschanel declined to speak about her new beau Jamie Linden telling InStyle, "You have to be careful what you reveal."
"You invite people in and can't kick them out," she explains.
However, the actress' tendency to be private does not mean that she hasn't developed a thick skin.
"Seventh grade was the ultimate low rock bottom -- someone spitting in your face while you are on your way to your locker. Having to fight your way through those years makes you ready for the future," she says of the time she was bullied.
"There's no way I can ever be as sensitive as I used to be, and it's sad to lose any sensitivity because it generally makes people very good at art," she continues. "I've seen a lot of people turn -- sometimes it unlocks who they really are. They turn into celebrities are who are separate from themselves. That's OK, but I just don't want to be like that. I have to be normal. My mother wouldn't let me be any other way."
The August issue of InStyle hits stands July 11.
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